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What We Thought…or Never Dared to Imagine

Hey, y’all! Hi! It’s that time of year–no, not Christmas. Not yet. We have approximately 3 months until we are bombarded with plastic santas…in August. 😉 It’s graduation time, which means that bright eyed teenagers are looking at their futures expectantly and quite certainly (or maybe uncertainly, which is far more realistic an outlook) because ACG and I have realized over the past few weeks–nothing goes as you expect in life ever, but it especially doesn’t go as you expected it would at eighteen.

In light of ACG’s not-so-little brother graduating and one of our other younger friends, we’ve been very reminiscent on our high school graduation experience. That is intensified when you realize ACG is starting her last year of college*; our friend K will be graduating in December*; and I am finally settling into the right degree* and returning to a four-year university rather than a two-year college or technical program. (*Barring changes in plan.)

We have been, and it led us to tonight’s topic: The things we thought would happen at 18 and the things we never thought to imagine would happen.

  1. I never thought that I would be okay with leaving high school behind, especially the comfort of seeing my friends every day and living basically just down the road from them. I really struggled with it, but three years later I can’t imagine going back. So much has happened that never could have in high school.
  2. Three years ago, I wanted to start over. I didn’t want to be who I always had been–who I still am. But now, I’m grateful I didn’t ditch my wonderful friends like ACG or this blog. I’m so glad to have grown and changed but to have also kept some pretty amazing things I thought I had to get rid of in order to be happy. You don’t have to start all over to become some new or better. You just have to work on what you have. You just have to make yourself your own.
  3. I thought I was going to be halfway to adult by now. By that I mean that I was going to take the chances to make changes to my personality (with no effort and overnight, mind you) that would have me suddenly involved in at least an extracurricular and making friends that I met up with for lunch  in every class and dating some guy about two years older than I am. That didn’t happen, though. In some ways, that’s a good thing; I needed a chance to grow and accept the fact that I was growing up and it was okay. But I also didn’t make myself branch out quite as much as I could have sometimes, and I wish I had. There’s still time to work on that in myself, though, and I am slowly trying to make myself.
  4. I, too, assumed I would be dating someone. And be a magical adult. To both those things I must say–spoiler alert to the youngsters–TRUE ADULTHOOD IS NOT REALLY ACHIEVABLE. There is only slowly adding in slightly more adult activities and making slightly more rational decisions. That aside. I did have the opportunity to date someone for about a year and a half before this graduation season and period of reflection. What I have learned is that: you can and will have new and different relationships than you had in high school. They will change you just like your high school relationships. And as much as you think you’re both adults so it’s real, they may not last–just like relationships in high school. Another note on high school relationships vs. college: anyone you had feelings for or an awkward relationship with in high school will not matter nearly as much in three years. It’s wild. The people you have in your life right now may not be the people who will always be there, and anyone in your life will always leave you with something–whether that be good memories and fondness or only strength from what you endured. On a positive note: it IS possible to keep friendships very strong–even when two of a three person friend group have lived away at different times.
  5. I never imagined that I would be able to sit down and actually reflect like this. I’ve learned a lot about myself and how to slow down and think about what happened in a situation, how I really felt, and what things actually meant. I was naive about a lot, innocently good-intentioned, not realizing how something that I said or did with nothing but kind purposes could have hurt someone. I didn’t like to stop and analyze things–or make a plan. I was thoughtless, kind of careless at times, and would have never thought that I would be willing to be the one to slow down and try to guide anyone through any emotional spot. I never imagined I would be able to put together a sentence full of any real feelings or wisdom that was my own.
  6. Don’t settle. I don’t mean go get Starbucks over making a cup of coffee at home. I mean, don’t tell yourself you’re not worth the investment in education or that you’re not special or smart enough for what you want to be; don’t tell yourself that what makes you happy doesn’t matter; don’t feel like you have to reduce your needs to be loved, to fit into someone else’s life. You have to take care of that for yourself. Make what you need known. Make what you want known. Know the difference between the two but stand up for both of them. You deserve the life you want. You need to love yourself enough to go after it. You are ultimately the only person on earth who can look out for your best interest 100% of the time, so do it.

Things didn’t go at all like either of us thought they would in the past three years, but looking at this list I think I can say that we’re right where we need to be because of it. I am so grateful that AJA didn’t ditch me or the blog ;), and I cannot agree with #6 more!

Drive safely, y’all. I mean, I know your bright futures in your eyes, but… that’s what sunglasses are for! 😉 ❤
Keep your diplomas open and your feelings buried. ;P ❤ 😉 😀 🙂 O.o

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If Not for a Mom

Hey, y’all! Hi! 🙂

If you live in America (the United States), you’ve probably been bombarded with the fact that tomorrow is Mother’s Day. If you have managed to avoid this information, you might be able to find a rose petal left in your local stores to get for the moms in your life. Because, yes, let’s be honest we ALL have more than one mom.

That isn’t the point of Mother’s Day, though. It’s to honor our amazing mothers (by blood or fate). So we wanted to share with y’all the a few things that our moms have taught us. Alternately, All The Things That Would Not Get Done if Not for a Mom.

  1. The wisdom in organizing a closet. When I was younger my mom had my closet completely color coded, and it helped everyone find things when they were lost. Today, it reminds me that I should probably do a better job of it if I wanted to find my favorite shirt quickly.
  2. How to have fun for very little cost with obscure household items. Potatoes? Both candy and jewelry! Paper bags or mateless socks? A little hot glue, some construction paper, and a marker–literally a five act play.
  3. Being raised by a nurse has some fallbacks (literally the only one I can think of is not being allowed to have a trampoline), but it does come with some nice perks. I’ve learned that a Bandaid, ice pack, and time can heal anything that isn’t falling off your body.
  4. And how would we possibly ever know the first thing about resumes, cards, cover letters, or thank you notes if not for loving mothers (or teachers, I guess 😉 which when female are kind of, basically school moms). Without my mom, I would not know how to remotely be an adult human being.
  5. Just add water! A few nights ago, AJA, our friend K, and I were trying to make pie crust together for the first time by ourselves. When my Mom walked into the room to check on us, she dumped in the rest of the water we had sitting there (already over the recipe amount), beat it a bit, and then got us back on track. It was amazing.
  6. Of course…one of the most important things I know both of our moms have taught us is patience. They both know how to love unconditionally and how to love even when their children are being difficult, even when situations are difficult or scary. And…this patience and strength may be the most practical thing that our moms are still teaching us.

There are many more things that our moms teach us, but we have to stop somewhere. 😉 We all want to sleep sometime, but I am–me too! ;P #)–so grateful for a day that lets us spend some time focusing on the most important women in our lives. Seriously, so grateful for my mom (ditto, I love her mom) and for ACG’s mom as well and just all the mothers that are truly moms and all the women that step up to be moms to children that aren’t their blood.

Drive safely! (Your mom is watching you, you know… 😉 )
Keep your friends close and your moms closer! ❤ 🙂 ;P 😉 😀 O.o

Posted in Spring, update

Howling Friendship

Hey y’all!

It’s ACG again, but this time AJA isn’t here for a very very good reason…

 

… she’s HOWLING AT THE MOON!!! (Read as: she’s in the process of recovering from last week’s cold and is catching up on some sleep.)

Some more good news for this week is that our friend K is back in town for a little bit, and we haven’t seen her since spring break. All of this is to say that we are STOKED to have her back!!!

Alright, see y’all next week! Keep your pencils fast and your pet rocks furious! ❤ 😉 😀 😉 ;P O.o

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Ticking

Hey, y’all! It’s just me tonight. AJA isn’t feeling too great and is also doing me a favor (because I’m a great friend that asks her friends to do things for them while feeling bad).

This week has been kind of crazy in a really good way. It’s entirely too hot to be April, and the end of semester work is getting turned in, my finals are wrapping up (AJA is in a week or so), and we’re getting ready for summer! 😀

Keep your feet in the clouds and your heads on the ground. ❤ 🙂 ;P 😉 😀 O.o

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Freedom?

Hi! Hey, y’all!

Earlier tonight, we finally got to do something I had been wanting to do ever since I heard of them: we went through an escape room tonight! It was so much fun, and I’m so grateful for both AJA and my brother being willing to come with me and work it into busy schedules. It was totally worth a little schedule squeezing 😉 just to spend time with ACG. Seriously, it was pretty serendipitous how today fell together, which made it all the more exciting, fun, and perfect.

Absolutely! We had three “theme” options for the room, and we (read as: I) chose the one called “Antidote,” which is–as you might have guessed—a rampant virus with a lost cure. (NGL when I see the word “antidote” (or hear it) I think about Egypt? Idk… ) It was our job to find the antidote before the time ran out. This was only moderately stressful. No one screamed at each other in anger, but we did raise our voices in fear a few times. One big takeaway from the medical science world: there are a lot of coded doorways and cabinets. We didn’t scream, and I don’t even really remember raising our voices. And, yes, there are a TON of cypher locks, cabinets, and random lab supplies all over the place. There was also an alien, but that’s a different experiment.

The most important question to ask, though, is if we won or not. It was a fear of losing 2/3’s of the party had with only ACG confident in our abilities. Honestly, if y’all knew the team and skillset I was working with between AJA and my brother, you’d be confident, too.

*snort* @) Mmmm I was scared because our only abstract thinking comes from ACG usually. 😉 But ultimately… *dun dun duhhhhhh*

WE FOUND THE ANTIDOTE!!! With 13 minutes to spare! It was amazing, and we got some really cool bracelets and a very fun picture out of the deal. Uh huh! It was great!

All in all: I think this whole adventure was a 10/10 and now we are eager to do it again sometime. 🙂 Agreed, and to try the other room options maybe, challenge ourselves with the more difficult rooms and test our teamwork.

Keep your key ring close and your puzzles closer! ❤ ;P 🙂 😀 😉 O.o

Drive safely ❤

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Achieving Goals

Hello, humans of earth! Hey, y’all!

Tonight we’re here to say, that it’s been two weeks since we said we had some fItNeSs GoAlS and since we have actually made progress towards those goals! Whoo! Like MAJOR progress. 🙂 The progress has been major…ly painful. (I’m kidding; it’s also been really great. We’ve been going every day that we could, and we’ve really been working to push ourselves and get better.) I may not enjoy working out as a hobby exactly, but I am enjoying the fact that I am improving already. I’m really proud of ACG for doing something she doesn’t exactly want to do and that does “kinda” hurt at first. O.O I mean, hey, I’m kinda proud of ME for doing something I DO want/enjoy/seek out doing even though it kinda hurts at first. Thank you ❤ I’m proud of both of us too, honestly, because it still takes effort and hard work no matter if you enjoy it or want to or not.

We thought tonight we’d share a few things we are doing and the things we like or dislike but hope to gain out of doing. 🙂 Which means, as per usual, it’s time for a list. #)

    1. We have started doing the stairclimber in the past couple of days. I find this by far the most interesting machine in the gym (besides the stretching cage that looks like it belongs in a torture chamber), but I think we’ve quickly learned that it’s one of the most intense ones, too.
    2. DEATH BIKES!! Okay, that’s way more intense sounding than it is. It’s actually a completely normal immobilized bike. But since it’s not a true spinning bike, you can’t stand and pedal… which means LUCKY YOU… you get to sit. on the most painful bike seat. in the world, leaning forwards for balance. Honestly, sitting on the thing is a work out of endurance. 😉 Seriously, I enjoy it. It’s fun and not something I’ve made time for a lot in previous work out endeavors.
    3. Swimming has not been a part of our regular work out routine. It still isn’t super regular, but it is something we do from time to time that I really do enjoy. It works every part of you without you even necessarily realizing it at the time. We also use water weights while we’re in there, and that’s a fun way to build up some resistance as we keep using them.
    4. Ellipticizing, which we may have mentioned before. Using an elliptical is my absolute favorite way to work out. I feel like I don’t even need to explain–good music, little stress on joints, and just moving your body. Idk. Maybe I’m weird.
    5. More P.E. style exercises, which we do in a multi-purpose area that we affectionately call the “little room.” By P.E. style I mean pushups, planks, situps, lunges, jumping jacks, and squats, the kinds of exercise that don’t require special equipment.

 

 

 

 

Overall, everything we’ve done is great for our bodies but challenging for us, but getting better means putting in the work. I know I personally am watching what I eat and practicing balance really well, which is something I’ve always struggled with. It feels really good to take charge of your health. It’s very confidence boosting and exciting. I am thrilled continue on this path. It does feel really good to decide to take the time to make a change and put a set of things into your life that will help you in the long run, even when they seem something close to torture in the now. I can’t wait to see what happens.

Keep your shoes laced tight and your socks clean! ;P 🙂 😀 😉 O.o ❤
Stay healthy–er, drive safely! ❤

 

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Living Our Best

Hey y’all! It’s just ACG tonight, because we’re both a little tired and ready to get some sleep tonight.

This week has been really great, even though it’s had some bumps along the way (featuring kittens and some changed plans among other things). Hopefully we’ll have a chance to share some epic story soon, but for now we wanted to let y’all know we’re still living our best lives, or trying to anyway ;).

Keep your chargers held high and your heels plugged in! ;P 🙂 O.o 😀 😉 ❤

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Heart Sweat

Hello! 🙂 Hey, y’all!

Today, we got back to doing something that we started a long time ago and missed more of than we ever meant to, for reasons both within and beyond our control. Today we had our chance to get back to the gym, though, and I’m excited to make it a routine again. Yes, it’s very exciting! Life can have a lot of challenges with keeping routines and often if your routine gets thrown off for a real reason then it’s easy to let good habits fall by the wayside. It is, and I’m sure we’ll face that again. We’ll deal with it as it comes though and do what we can to keep our good habits.

Tonight, we wanted to share some of the goals we have for getting back in the groove of this exercise thing. 🙂 Hopefully, writing out goals will make us more likely to reach them. So, without further ado, in our usual fashion of sharing our goals: A List. 🙂

  1. This one is kind of small, but I want to be able to do at least a couple of pull ups. I think this one is very reachable, though, so that’s nice.
  2. I want to feel how I felt October 2017, which was really, truly healthy (despite some weird medication reactions). I felt more coordinated than I had felt at any other point in my life when I was being active. I miss feeling “graceful.”
  3. I want to be able to get through a Zumba class without feeling like someone stole my lungs or having to modify most of the moves. I’ve been able to kind of do this before, but I’ve never been at the point I truly would like to be.
  4. Working out provides me with a lot of confidence. So I’m looking forward to that confidence boost. Zumba is basically an uplifting as a dance party with strangers; individual cardio provides a wonderful headspace/escape; and (eventual) strength training will definitely provide a sense of confidence about what I can do.
  5. I want to be able to keep up with the people around me, or at least know that I’m doing what I can to be able to do what I need to do. Sometimes I know that I wouldn’t be able to do something fast enough or well enough to feel like it’s worth trying it. I want to change that entirely.

Overall, we have a LOT of goals that are very personal to us individually. Having a healthy relationship with exercise is super important and will help us to have a more balanced life. I know we both have things we are looking forward to changing and improvements we are looking forward to seeing in ourselves in physical (strength, health) ways as well as mental (confidence, peace) ways.

Absolutely so, and I’m excited to be able to go for these goals with someone that I know has similar goals to my own. It will also give us time to be doing something together that we will both be able to relax (mentally maybe anyway) and just enjoy the time of being together and working towards our goals.

Keep your exercise sharp and your mind purposeful! ❤ 😉 😛 🙂 😀 O.o
Drive safely. ❤

Posted in College, Double Crowns, Life and Likes, Spring, update

The Greatest Adventure

Hello, friends and fiends! 😉 Hey, y’all!

Our spring break was this week as we’ve mentioned a couple of times. It’s honestly been so, so very nice! Far better than last spring break for a few reasons, primarily the weather and improved health (on my part) which we are both VERY grateful for because it meant we got to have a couple of adventures. 🙂 Absolutely! The weather was amazing, and the adventures were better. It was a much needed break from school and “normal” life.

The best of the adventures was that we got to go visit K! Uh huh! We got to be the reunited AKA. 🙂 And I have to say, age is treating us all very well! 😉 It was so, so great to be with K for a few days. She also got to show us a bit of where she lives now since fall 2018 she moved away for college. It was great to see where she’s been doing what she loves, but it’s even more exciting to know she is getting closer to coming back to us. I do have to say, though, where she’s living is pretty adorable and fun to explore. It is gorgeous and has some delicious food, haha. 🙂

Honestly, the whole thing was great from time with ACG on the road and some hilarious and dangerous driving patterns of interstate drivers to the great old school slumber party with K. The drivers were INSANE, but the rest of it was great. The time on the road was filled with punch drunk laughter as well as some pretty deep conversations that I wouldn’t trade for the world. The slumber party also had some serious conversations (but we absolutely can’t forget AJA lunging at K pretending to be a feral critter what can I say? I am an absolute party animal! ;P).

It’s crazy to think about how our sleepovers have gone from giggling eighth graders to college aged young women thinking about life, liberty, and the pursuit of true happiness amen. I love these two girls, and I’m so grateful that we’ve made this journey (and spent all of our spring breaks) together. SAME! It was great!

This break was invigorating and I can’t wait to see what the future holds from here. ❤

 

Drive safely and don’t stop short! ❤
Keep your friends reasonable and your cruise control close! 😛 😉 O.o ❤ 😀

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Changing Breaks

Hi! Hey, y’all!

So, recently, we’ve realized that in life it’s really easy to lose track of things that were once priorities, even things that you care about and that provide you with a lot of joy. For us, one of those things has been writing. Absolutely, and there have been a lot of reasons for why we lost track of it and it fell through the cracks. I looked at my latest document the other day and saw that it had been a month since I even edited the document and it was so surreal, and I had no idea how it happened. I know I’ve started several projects and they slowly drifted away from me as I had school work or various other things happen in my life that took over. I also know that we’re both tired of this feeling.


Fortunately, we can change that, like you should do with anything in life that’s making you unhappy if there’s a way to change it! So, that’s exactly what we’re going to do! With spring break coming up we even have the perfect, school free opportunity to do it, too! There are so many other reasons that spring break will be a really good thing for us, but specifically the chance to just write–and maybe even get together and write–is topping the list of benefits since AJA mentioned that as a real possibility. It’s exciting. ❤ Life is good; change can be good, and I’m thrilled to have spring break to sort some things out and accomplish some progress on fun, personal projects like writing. Oh, and spend time with ACG. (Unfortunately, we won’t get to spend this week with K but we did have a blast doing that this week when our schedules allowed. And, thankfully, ACG and my spring breaks are the same week.)


I mean, spending time together will ultimately be the best part, but the other things fall into place with that. I’m also really glad that our spring breaks didn’t just span three different weeks; that would have been the worst. Only majorly. This is definitely a change that has potential to be AMAZING. 🙂 Agreed.

Keep your breaks safe and your passions fueled! ❤ 🙂 ;P 😉 😀 O.o
So, drive safely (and write often or whatever it is you love to do)! ❤